What if the primary purpose of your relationships with other people is really your own personal growth?

Why do you ever get into relationships with other people at all?

You may say “for comfort” or “for security”. You might also say “for companionship” or you might say “for friendship”. You might way “to have someone to bounce ideas off of” or even “to have someone to fight with.

What happens to you in all relationships, whether it’s a “good” relationship or a “bad” relationship? Being one of your biggest growth opportunities-- that's the one thing you can say about your experience in any relationship

If the relationship is good in the sense that it’s warm and mutually nurturing, you can only grow because that relationship will give you an idea of what’s possible between two people. On the other hand, if the relationship is bad in the sense there’s very little compatibility or there’s a lot of fighting, you can only grow-- that relationship gives you the opportunity to define yourself as someone who deserves better and you develop the strength to move on and find a more nurturing relationship.